you win some, you lose some

so i've known my husband for a VERY long time.  we worked together at Pick N Save when we were just 14 and 15 years old.

he always had a big crush on me.  as he would put it, i was his "fantasy girl".  but, because i was older, i just thought he was my little dorky friend (poor guy).

when we got a little older, he finally got a girlfriend.  and of course i did what any girl would do...i got jealous.  especially when his girlfriend forbid him to talk to me, which only made me like him more.

anyways, fast forward to present time...

we are happily married, most days anyway ;) he broke up with that girl years ago, and hasn't really spoken to her since.

but we see her and her family.  all.  the.  time.  they are everywhere!  at the grocery store, at Friday Night Live, at Kohl's, and most of all, at church.

they are usually nice to Mark and say hello, but do not acknowledge my existence.  sometimes her mom will stand directly in front of me facing Mark, talking only to him.

when i started Zumba, i forced Starla into coming with me because i was terrified her and her mom would be there.  they weren't there that first day and didn't attend for many months.  but as luck would have it, they started coming a few months ago.

and it is SO awkward!!  they still won't look at me or acknowledge me or anything.

so i decided i wanted to be the bigger person.  i hate having any sort of tension with anyone, so i thought i would try and talk to her and get it over with.  i didn't want to be friends or anything, just wanted to be able to say hi and not continue ignoring each other.

i had to spit out my gum and of course the only garbage can in the humongous room was right next to her.  i walked over and spit it out and she was just  standing there alone so i took that as my opportunity.

here's how it went...

me: "hey, um, so i think it might be ok, if um, we say hi to each other every once in awhile?"
her: "well since this is MY church and people at MY church are nice, they usually do say hi to me."
me: (mouth gaping open for a moment) "i guess i just never felt comfortable because you all say hi to mark but don't acknowledge me at all.  like i don't exist.  and there are more of you, so i just didn't know what to do"
her: (rolling her eyes) "um ok"

and i walked away.  went back to chatting with Starla and other NICE people that attend HER church.

you win some, you lose some.  at least i tried...

holidays

Things were so hectic for us the last couple of weeks, but we have been having A LOT of fun!

After being sick for THREE days (!), I finally was able to get up enough to get the house ready for Christmas.  We thought it would be really special to have the family over for Christmas, and it was a great time.  It was definitely hard getting the house ready for it, but I'm so glad we made it happen!

We had a wonderful Christmas! 

We went to church on Monday night with my mom.  This was the first Christmas service we had been to at our new church and we really enjoyed it.  I thought the message was great, not just like a traditional Christmas service. 

We went to my mom's and Mark's mom's on Christmas eve.  We opened lots of gifts and spent some quality time with the families.  At my mom's, we had a good time playing Farkle, eating and opening some gifts.  We were able to spend a little time with my sister and her family before we headed to Mark's mom's.  We were able to eat dinner with them, and then we spent time opening gifts.  It's always fun spending time with our niece and nephew.  The baby, Eva, doesn't like me very much yet (haha) but Greyson always has fun playing with us. 

Than on Christmas day, my family came to our home to celebrate.  This was the first time we had a party at our house (after living here for a week) and our first time cooking lunch for Christmas too!  Mark made ham, and I made some sides.  Luckily mom helped out and brought some things to eat too.  It took the pressure off of us a bit.  We spent the day playing games, hanging out with the newest member of the family, Abe (my sister's tiny puppy), and eating!  It was a blast!

Zumba!

In September, there was an announcement at church that they were gonna have a free Zumba class on Tuesday nights.  I had never tried Zumba but I knew it was kind of a dance workout class and I though it would be fun to try.  Since we are pretty new to the church and this was the first workout class I had ever been to, I recruited Starla to go to the first class with me so I wasn't so intimidated.  We had a BLAST!  It was the best time ever doing a workout!  We have been going every Tuesday since!  They titled the class Zumba Cares, so instead of paying for the classes, you can make a donation to a cause, which they have a different one every month.  For the month of November we are donating to the food pantry.  Our instructors obviously teach other places as well, so I signed up for classes with them too.  This way when I can't make it to church on Tuesday, like this week and next, I can still get my Zumba on!  The other night me and Starla were being super nerds and looking for our classes music on YouTube.  We found our actual routine for one of our favorite routines!  Here is it...Enjoy!